VISITING

Posted on by michellethurman2344

Tomorrow I go to Colorado. I love visiting my daughter. It’s been hard getting used to her being so far away. I always thought when my children were grown that they would live close by and there would be a lot of visiting back and forth with them; but that is not how it has worked out. My children are scattered, and they are so involved with their own lives that visiting doesn’t happen as much as I would like for it too.

ROCKY MOUNTAIN NATIONAL PARK

My sons are each very involved in their own lives and I see very little of them. My mother used to say: A son is a son until he takes a wife, but a daughter is a daughter for all of her life. It’s an old saying and I didn’t really put much stock in it, but that is how it has worked out in my life. My youngest son was always in and out of my home and called me four or five times a week….until he got married. Now I hear from him two or three times a month. My eldest son lives about twenty minutes away, but I don’t see him very often. And my middle son lives in Arkansas and I don’t hear from him more than once or twice a year. It’s just the way it is.

But my daughter, even though she lives 1100 miles away, calls nearly every day and we talk for at least an hour for each call. I visit her at least once a year and I would like to make those visits more often. She has only been back in California once in the four and half years since she moved away, but we are very close and stay in touch always. My daughter-in-laws are each close to their families and even though I love each of them dearly and have a good relationship with them, I can see that they have that same connection with their individual families that I my daughter has with hers. And for my sons it means they have strong connections with the parents of their wives and I think that is good. I don’t mind sharing, especially as I know the families of my daughters by marriage and I like them all.

Visits are always nice. We have a big family gathering planned in August and hopefully each of my children will be able to come. I love getting them together. Family is everything and I am so blessed. My sisters, my brother and all their families will be there too. It’s something we used to do when our parents were still with us, and now we gather together to help us maintain our closeness, to give our younger generations that sense of family that we always had when we were young. I love my family and I thank God for them.

AMAZON ECHO (2ND GENERATION) AS AN AMAZON ASSOCIATE I EARN FROM QUALIFYING PURCHASES.
Unknown's avatar

Published by michellethurman2344

I was born in California, but both my parents were born in different areas of rural Oklahoma. My father grew up on a small cattle ranch and my mother grew up in the hills of eastern Oklahoma near the Ozark Mts. Both were born in the 1920's when Oklahoma was still more a part of the 1800's than the twentieth century so I like to say I was born of parents who were the last generation born during the old west. Their old west roots had a huge impact on my childhood. I spent the first three years of my life on my Granny's chicken farm. She was my father's grandmother and she owned 60 acres of alfalfa which she rented out and lived on three acres of barnyard where she raised chickens. There was some electricity, but no indoor plumbing outside of a faucet in the kitchen. The toilet was down the boardwalk in a small shed...in other words...an outhouse. The shower was a room under the water tank in the pumphouse. Granny's little three room house was the only painted building on the property. Everything else was raw, unpainted wood including the two room house my parents lived in. And I loved living on that little farm where I pretty much had free run of the barnyard and sometimes even wandered into the fields surrounding it. The town where I was born is along the Colorado River in the middle of the California desert and across the river from the Arizona desert and while we did live there for the first 12 years of my life, we moved a lot due to my father's employment. He was a big equipment operator and we moved to where the work took him, but usually only six months of the year then we moved back to our hometown. We moved to Northern California in 1958 and I have lived here ever since. I am a mother, a grandmother, have one great-grandchild and recently retired. I am divorced and now live with my youngest sister. My sisters and I like to cruise and take road trips. I am enjoying my life.

Leave a comment